From my perspective she is the one being selfish- he clearly expressed concern about having more kids, whereas she doesn't seem to care if she keeps popping them out. So he did what he needed to do to control his destiny.

I told my wife I didn't want kids. Told my ex that too. I also tried to control this with condoms but in both cases failed. (Actually the ex said she was on the pill but for all know she stopped taking them).

When I had my vasectomy the doctor's office actually required my wife' s signature on the form- Really? I needed to get "permission?" As one other respondent mentioned, she could go have an abortion and not only not tell him but not even involve him.